Isn’t it somehow ironic how humans rely on their intelligence and power in their day-to-day activities as if they own themselves. We rush off in the morning serving Mammon, without even saying a word of appreciation or acknowledging the Creator. We are so engrossed in the race for survival that we neglect the giver of life. But when a car nearly runs you over you shout, “Jesus!”
Its also amazing how ladies who have “missed the bus” become so “churchy.” They become prodigal daughters since the loving father is always awaiting their return with open arms.
Must we have a bitter experience before we remember God?
The sad tale is that often times, it’s just to cross “that bridge”, once on the other side, we fly away just like ‘Paul and Peter’. This makes me ask why most of us have turned God into an Automated Teller Machine (ATM) God or Zombie God. Is it because God doesn’t hold grudges? His hand is always open to us whether we are riding the chariot of grace or crushed beneath the wheels.
We go our ways, do our things and when things don’t go our way, or we run out of steam, we run to God and enter the ‘prodigal pin’. What we often forget is that if we don’t make deposits in our accounts the ATM replies ‘insufficient balance.’
The most ridiculous is hoping/believing that God will do whatever we ask of him just because the scripture says “nothing is impossible with God”. While that scripture is very true, even if you are to make withdrawals from the ATM, you’d have to go there first and insert your card. No ATM brings money to your house. No robot acts without a command.
All his promises are valid but requires a conscious effort on our part. God is no robot and we don’t have his remote.
There is this little kid in my neighborhood who goes around without his slippers, he would tramp the whole street bare footed. I became a little concerned about his safety that I called him once to ask about his slippers. The following conversation ensued between us.
ME: Don’t you have a slippers?
Kid: “Owa nile!” (It’s at home.)
ME: Why don’t you put it on?
Kid: “kosi”. (Nothing.)
There and then I reprimanded him saying “If I ever see you without your slippers on your feet, I’ll beat you.” for emphasis sake, I asked him to repeat his punishment and he did. That seems to drive the nail in as there has been a drastic and wonderful improvement. His mother reports that he wears his slippers even in the house.
However several days later, I began to ruminate on that encounter with the kid and I somehow found myself wanting. “But why?” You may ask. After all you saw a problem, attempted to solve the problem and succeeded. While that may be true, but then how did I tackle the situation? How did I solve the problem? I found my self wanting with the approach. I scared him. I threatened him. I promised him a future punishment for his failure to comply. Was that the best way to solve the problem? I mean, yes it worked fine, but what if I had promised him a positive benefit. What if I had figured out a way to reward him positively, would I have succeeded? What if I had promised him a biscuit/sweet at the end of the week/month for his compliance to the commandment “thou shalt not walk barefooted.”
The above scenario has made me to examine our parenting culture in this part of the world. All around, we see parents doing more of threatening/coercion than encouragement. Even in our schools, teachers yell “if you don’t keep shut I’ll tell your mummy” or “I’ll beat you”. All that this approach achieves, is to create a certain level of fear and control in the child. Have we ever pondered on the effects of this parenting styles or techniques on our children’s psyche? For most of us in this clime, the fear of the rod is the beginning of wisdom. Parents even justifying beating by quoting “spare the rod spoil the child.” In the long run, do we even try to envisage what we’ve been doing to the personality of these children? just yesterday, I heard a mother complain about her son. She claims her son has refused to change for the better despite the number of times she beats him and after series of corporal punishments.
While I am not trying to find faults with E. L Thorndike’s “operant conditioning”. I strongly believe that positive reinforcement would be beneficial to the child. It would help eliminate unnecessary fear and give the child a more positive outlook to life.
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My mind’s been itching for a while, but couldn’t get my hand to obey my head. In fact titling this has been hectic. However, here’s a lil piece for the readers delight. Hope you enjoy it.Thanks
“Revelations” are sometimes scary, shocking or awkward. There must be a reason why Revelation is not the first book you read and a stronger reason why it is placed in the last place you’ll want to check. Sometimes I wonder: is this happening now or will still happen? I feel it just further endorses the sayings that “never judge a book by its cover.” Everything is not always as it seems. Everyone is not really who they are. There is a surprise for us all in life. That’s why LIFE is what it is; a MYSTERY. Once the mystery is resolved, the joy of living becomes absent. Would there be words like hope? Definitely there would be fear. Imagine the cognition of death and its accompanying feelings or knowing you’d win the lottery tomorrow. If revelation is a peep into the future, things to come, does precognition help plan to avert dangers or welcome enormous wealth? *sigh*
There is this notion/thought that if you possess some values/virtue you’d attract certain things, people, and events into your life. Just like the ants are attracted to sugary things. I believe its right to say we are MAGNETS. That is to say what you are attracting into your life right now is a function of values/virtues you possess. Yet there seems to be a lot of people who feel they are not attracting what they should despite having the right attitudes, thoughts and actions. What could be wrong? why and where? *sigh*
Everyone seeks to be loved. Companionship and acceptance are few (yet important) of the emotional needs of humans. However careful consideration has shown that all those who seek to be loved usually end up err… loveless. Although she had her fair share of enemies, yet she was greatly loved by her people. She made such impact that her autobiography was adopted into the school curriculum. At her death, economic activities were brought to a standstill and she was mourned for 30 days. All the while on her deathbed, she was thinking of them, persuading her people not to “cry for her”. Why won’t she be loved? *sigh* Can our ladies go as far as Evita? Use the comment box below to share your views.